Married but single

These days I feel like I’m living the single life again, which in many couples’ relationships would be longed for. There are pros and cons I suppose to having more time on my hands. I’ll start with the pros:

Why I should look on the bright side:

1. I have all the time on my hands to meet up with old friends and do my own “thang”.


2. No need to bother about compromising my schedule with other half since the only time I see his physical form is before I head off to work in the mornings and sometimes on the weekends.


3. He doesn’t ask or nag me about my other activities since he’s too busy with his own – good, freedom to do as I please.


4. I can start scheduling for practice sessions for salsa.


5. I don’t have to rush back from whatever it is I am doing after office hours since the other half gets back later than I do (this will be especially helpful if I am going out for salsa on weekends).


6. I can choose to watch whatever channels I like on the TV or DVDs if I like.


7. I have the whole house to myself.


8. I have more time to my reading.


9. I can go increase my “network of friends”.


10. Save the electricity bill since less one person in the house means less consumption.


11. Ditto for food.

On the other hand, there should be cause for worry because:

1. It feels like we’re both moving in different directions.


2. If I’m living the single life now, what’s the point in being married?


3. Since there’s hardly communication going on, it feels like we’re living our own separate lives.


4. I may just get used to and start enjoying doing things on and for my own. I can see just where this could be a problem if I start being stubborn on compromising (I’m even starting to plan my holidays as if I’m going on my own).


5. I don’t see where having kids in this situation is going to change or improve our lifestyle. Or even have meaning in this lifestyle. In a nutshell: there is no room for kids simply because it’s a shared responsibility; if I’m going to be stuck at home doing most or all of the work, then we can forget the whole thing.

Well, the good bits still outweigh the not-so-good bits, so I suppose I can go on like this for a while more.