Why I should look on the bright side:
- I have all the time on my hands to meet up with old friends and do my own “thang”.
- No need to bother about compromising my schedule with other half since the only time I see his physical form is before I head off to work in the mornings and sometimes on the weekends.
- He doesn’t ask or nag me about my other activities since he’s too busy with his own – good, freedom to do as I please.
- I can start scheduling for practice sessions for salsa.
- I don’t have to rush back from whatever it is I am doing after office hours since the other half gets back later than I do (this will be especially helpful if I am going out for salsa on weekends).
- I can choose to watch whatever channels I like on the TV or DVDs if I like.
- I have the whole house to myself.
- I have more time to my reading.
- I can go increase my “network of friends”.
- Save the electricity bill since less one person in the house means less consumption.
- Ditto for food.
On the other hand, there should be cause for worry because:
- It feels like we’re both moving in different directions.
- If I’m living the single life now, what’s the point in being married?
- Since there’s hardly communication going on, it feels like we’re living our own separate lives.
- I may just get used to and start enjoying doing things on and for my own. I can see just where this could be a problem if I start being stubborn on compromising (I’m even starting to plan my holidays as if I’m going on my own).
- I don’t see where having kids in this situation is going to change or improve our lifestyle. Or even have meaning in this lifestyle. In a nutshell: there is no room for kids simply because it’s a shared responsibility; if I’m going to be stuck at home doing most or all of the work, then we can forget the whole thing.
Well, the good bits still outweigh the not-so-good bits, so I suppose I can go on like this for a while more.